Looking Back on the The Highs and Lows of Moving Abroad After 2 Years
Starting Over
I knew moving to a new country would be a challenge. I was prepared for the big things—navigating the tax system, finding a job, and adjusting to a new culture. But looking back two years after moving to the Netherlands from Poland, I’ve realized my view of the experience has completely changed.
In hindsight, it has become clear, how much effort small, unexpected things require. When I look back on what were the most challenging times during my two years here, the big changes fade and I have a newfound understanding of the way that nostalgia can sucker punch you when you are having a hard day.
The In-Between
Looking back, there were challenging times, I missed home and questioned if moving here was a mistake more than once, but slowly I was building something new.
During my first few months living in Haarlem, the streets, the shops, the routines—at first felt temporary. But then, things started to shift. One day, I needed something specific and, without thinking, I went straight to the right store. Another time, I gave someone directions and realized I knew my way around. The supermarket that once felt like a maze became predictable. I assure you, no new job or signed rental contract can compare to the sense of achievement I felt in those moments!
Building a social life requires the most effort. Back home, friendships formed naturally. Here, I had to put myself out there, attend events, and follow up with people. At first, it felt like work. But over time, casual conversations turned into real friendships. That effort paid off and building friendships brought essential support and fulfilment.
The Shift
Moving abroad isn’t just about adapting to a new place—it’s about adjusting the way you think. Some things require effort, even when you don’t realize it.
As my day-to-day life was changed, I also had to shift my thinking. I was used to systems that required persistence and skepticism. Here, I realized I didn’t have to double-check everything. Dutch society works on trust—institutions are transparent, and processes are straightforward. Letting go of that instinct to anticipate obstacles made daily life easier. If you ever want to better understand your culture and how it affects your life view and decision-making? Try immersing yourself in a different culture, you will learn things about yourself that you never knew existed.
Finding Home
After two years, I’ve stopped seeing the Netherlands as temporary. Some things have become routine, and a few I can’t imagine living without.
Bloemendaal Beach is one of them. It’s the place I go to clear my head, take a break, or just be outside. I never expected to feel connected to a Dutch beach, but now it’s part of my life. The Dutch directness is another thing that I’ve grown fond of, that first felt abrupt but it’s become something I appreciated—I never wonder where I stand anymore and it’s refreshing.
Conclusion
Looking back, I see how much has changed. At first, I noticed what was different, and what was missing. Now, I can see what I’ve gained. The transition wasn’t always easy, but at some point, without realizing it, I built a life here. Settling in took effort, patience, and time, but now, if I had to leave, I know exactly what I would miss.
